When I feel most alive … go ahead, take your shoes off!

A topic that has been on my mind recently is mentoring. I started a book this week called “The Heart of Mentoring: Ten Proven Principles For Developing People to Their Fullest Potential” by David A. Stoddard.

I am really excited about what this book has to say. In the preface the author writes,

“As we walk through these pages together, I hope to convince you that there is really only one type of person in this world: the person who need to be a “mentored mentor.” I have concluded that each of us need mentoring and we also need to mentor others. The people I know who are getting the most out of life — and putting the most back into it — are those who are committed to this mutual mentoring process. This is where true fulfillment lies. Indeed, I have found that this is one of the greatest joys you can experience. I invite you to join me on this journey!”

I feel like I will benefit so much from it, since I am going to be a mentor this summer for several college students on Summer Project here in Orlando on OSP (Orlando Summer Project). It’s like a normal Crusade summer project except that instead of going to somewhere exotic like Virginia Beach (where I spent the summer of 2000 on a summer project) about 50 students from around the country will come to Orlando to work at headquarters (instead of places like Subway) to get some experience in their field of study (examples: computer science, graphic design, accounting/finance…) and they will have bible studies, praise and worship meetings, social events, outreaches and all the other typical things you would do on a summer project. As a OSP staff member, I will probably have a small group of guys that I will be mentoring in some fashion for the summer. I hope that I can learn a lot from this book to be able to better serve and help them.

The other way in which I hope to gain from this is obviously as someone who is mentored. Currently I have been working with Todd, who is also sort of my boss, to work through some of the New Staff Development materials that they ask the interns to go through while they are working for Crusade. But I think we both see our relationship as being more than just “coaching” or just working through some material.

In the introduction the author tells a story of a young man, Kyle, who tries to find a mentor but it just doesn’t work out because the mentor didn’t really understand what Kyle wanted, and Kyle didn’t know how to tell him what he really was looking to gain from that mentoring relationship.

“In seeking a mentor, Kyle wasn’t just wanting information. he was looking for a helpful relationship, for someone who could provide a road map — or a compass of sorts — to show him how to find his way in the chaotic world around him. Kyle wanted answers for the everyday struggles he was facing in both his personal and professional life.”

I can relate to Kyle. Those are the things that I, too, want in a mentor. I am so thankful that Todd understands that and wants to be that kind of mentor. And I really respect him and have already learned so much from him. Hopefully this book will aid me in really making the most of my relationship with Todd, or any other person like him that I might have a mentoring relationship with in the future!

If you are interested in mentoring, let me know! I would love to talk about it with you!

Check out this new story about American Idol (one of my TV obsessions) (passed on to me by one of my teammates, thanks Irene!) It seems one of the contestants, Scott Savol, was once arrested for domestic violence. The news story gave more details about what happened.

I’m not surprised that he is not disqualified from the competition. I mean when has America ever really cared whether their Idols real lives are moral and good? Look at the people who have once been “American idols” and how they have turned out! Bill Clinton, Michael Jackson, O.J. Simpson, and many others! How many rappers, pro football players, actors have been arrested for breaking laws? Too many!

If anything, this might make him more qualified to be an American Idol (In a sick, backwards kind of way, of course)! America’s music world and culture has never really made morality or goodness a qualification for pop stardom, just talent and sexiness. I don’t really expect them to start now. And to really be nit-picky, I suppose if we were to go digging into all of the competitors pasts, we could find things that they have done that are wrong or immoral or bad, things that they probably regret.

Even if American Idol isn’t just about singing and looking good, is it fair or right to hold Scott’s past against him in this competition, just because his past happened to make the news for America to hear?

I think NOT.

We don’t know how he feels about his past. Maybe he’s really sorry about what he did. I hope that this news story, in an attempt to get attention (in the media’s typical news fashion of digging up all possible dirt on everyone involved) doesn’t ruin his chances at becoming American Idol by unfairly showing him in a negative light where they haven’t shown the other contestants. It adds a bias against him where we have no information on the other contestants’ lives. We shouldn’t hold it against him, only how well or poorly he performs and sings.

Just as a disclaimer, please do NOT think that I am in any way saying that I think domestic abuse is OK or should not be punished. I am totally and completely against it, and men who do such things make me sick. But what I am saying is that it is unfair for the media to run such a story that will unfairly represent a contestant in such a competition. And it is unfair for us to see one such piece of information about only ONE contestant’s bad past, and to decide to let that sway our vote against him in favor of other contestants who we know EVEN LESS about!

Give Scott the benefit of the doubt. Vote for him based on his singing and performing, not his past actions that you don’t really know anything about! Do the right thing even though the media hasn’t. Shame on you media.

EDIT 4/1: I found on the Entertainment Weekly site an article with this quote:

Fox issued a statement saying that Savol would stay. “Scott Savol was forthcoming to the American Idol producers and the network regarding his misdemeanor,'’ the statement read. ‘’After reviewing the facts, in which the charges were reduced to disorderly conduct, we felt that considering Scott’s honesty and his remorse, the situation did not warrant his disqualification.”

So they say in this one, where the other selectively quoted the FOX statement, that it was because of his honesty AND remorse, so we know that he is remorseful. I’m somewhat pleasantly surprised that FOX even cared that he was remorseful, although, I guess this is a family show?

I guess the point that this makes to me is that American Idol, although it claims to, doesn’t REALLY represent the real dynamics and values of the real pop star culture these days. It’s too honest, too virtuous, too family friendly. But then again, maybe this shows a change in pop culture these days. But, most likely, and unfortunately, not. Once the American Idol wannabe winner becomes a real idol, no one will probably care whether he or she is a big jerk, only whether his or her music is fun, sounds good, and makes people happy.

I hope I have challenged you and I have convinced you not to let this sway your vote against him and to not encourage others to either. He deserves this chance, and he is probably hoping that he can finally put his past behind him. We owe it to him to be fair in our voting America!